Lilian Ruth nee Ludman was to the world an ordinary woman. I have no argument with that. I, her son, am an ordinary man, too. However, to me, she was a very special woman. Frankly, that’s the only thing important to me and the only aspect that counted. She had qualities that remained hidden to most people and only a few that she should have hidden. I will not recount our relationship. However, I should add she was caring without being emotional, guiding without demanding, loving but not demonstrative. I’ll quit at this juncture but not before mentioning a brief incident that occurred the day after she left us.
I communicated with a dear friend of ours in South Africa about the sad news. Colyn Levin then sent me an email of sympathy followed by another an hour later. A little history: Mom was a golfer for many years. She rose to become the club captain. When she retired, in recognition of her many contributions to the club, she was awarded honorary life membership of the club.
Back to Colyn who passed this message onto Jen and me. The Club’s flag will be flying at half-mast in honor of Ruth.
My first thought when I read the tribute was to think: If I had one wish it would not be for me to see her again but rather, that she could have a few more seconds on Earth to catch a glimpse of that flag.
My Dad and I were golfers at the club. Had they flown a flag at half-mast for me, it would be apt for some of the terrible games I had played on those links.
Rest in Peace, Mom, you deserve it.
Humbly, yours.
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